Losing my first love

theformat · Post by **theformat** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 9:33 pm

what helps when you lose the first person you felt like you would marry? grow old with and live a happy life with, the person that was for you?
what helps? i need to know

Jonathan · Post by **Jonathan** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:02 pm

Time. Just because it didn't work out here doesn't mean you won't find somebody that makes you even happier. I believe every person has an equal amount of good and bad qualities (should they choose to live up to their potential). As you get older and meet more women, you'll realize that there are a LOT of women out there that you are capable of marrying/making it with. You'll meet a lot of people with endearing qualities that make you want to be with them, and on the other hand bad qualities that you may or may not be willing to put up with. Boils down to the old saying "Plenty of fish in the sea".

You just have to love yourself enough to realize that you don't really need anyone other than yourself. It's better when you know that you don't need anyone, and treat it as such. You learn to treat breakups as an opportunity, because that's exactly what they are. You get to meet new people and try to find something better than what you had before. And it's fun as long as you learn to take it casually and don't try to act desparate and make a job out of it. A lot of people I know see dating as a hassle, like they're job hunting or something lol. And in the end they usually settle for less because it's easier. Just an observation, BTW. Just remember that whomever you were with obviously isn't "the one", and to make it blunt you just have to suck it up and move on. It's not a bad thing, just a chance for opportunities to present themselves.

theformat · Post by **theformat** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:25 pm

Jonathan wrote:Time. Just because it didn't work out here doesn't mean you won't find somebody that makes you even happier. I believe every person has an equal amount of good and bad qualities (should they choose to live up to their potential). As you get older and meet more women, you'll realize that there are a LOT of women out there that you are capable of marrying/making it with. You'll meet a lot of people with endearing qualities that make you want to be with them, and on the other hand bad qualities that you may or may not be willing to put up with. Boils down to the old saying "Plenty of fish in the sea".
You just have to love yourself enough to realize that you don't really need anyone other than yourself. It's better when you know that you don't need anyone, and treat it as such. You learn to treat breakups as an opportunity, because that's exactly what they are. You get to meet new people and try to find something better than what you had before. And it's fun as long as you learn to take it casually and don't try to act desparate and make a job out of it. A lot of people I know see dating as a hassle, like they're job hunting or something lol. And in the end they usually settle for less because it's easier. Just an observation, BTW. Just remember that whomever you were with obviously isn't "the one", and to make it blunt you just have to suck it up and move on. It's not a bad thing, just a chance for opportunities to present themselves.

you know what... its either the beer ive been drinking or that just hit me really good...
like ive heard that before on another forum i use for a game i play... and families opinions ect...
but i dont know...
that just made perfect sense to me, the way you put it.
thanks very much i really appreciate what you said...
ive been weak dealing with this for about a month... i didnt want to say it on the cac forums but i thought i should seek a different opinion... lots of people say this... but i dont know its just the way you put it...
once again, thanks, it really helps
-format

sinister audio · Post by **sinister audio** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:33 pm

Its just a part of life. dont let it beat you up cause youll never get anywhere then. the first one always sucks but there will always be another. u could also go to a strip club that might help.

joeyc · Post by **joeyc** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:50 pm

lmao, titties and beer can work in a situation like that......but they could also lead to unhealthy spending!!

I have nothing to add after what Jonathan said, should we call him... Dr. Jonathan?

solacedagony · Post by **solacedagony** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:50 pm

Yea, don't let it bring down your self-confidence or depress you. This almost definitely isn't the last time this is going to happen to you (or you breaking up with a girl). Take this time to enjoy being single and having time to yourself. When you get bored of that again, go look for another chick. They're usually down at aisle 6 in the supermarket. :)

solacedagony · Post by **solacedagony** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:50 pm

joeyc wrote:lmao, titties and beer can work in a situation like that......but they could also lead to unhealthy spending!!

Not like he has to go home and answer to his woman where the money went. Hahaha.

joeyc · Post by **joeyc** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 10:52 pm

so true, but what is he going to tell his stereo?

theformat · Post by **theformat** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 11:31 pm

it will never bring down my self confidence... im a great guy... but its depressing no matter what... when you truly care about your first and only (sexually) i dont know... its depressing no matter what... i just hope i can get over this bitch as soon and fast as i can...
the worst feeling ive ever known is loving someone and them not giving a damn...
thanks for yalls support,
it helps a lot
-format

theformat · Post by **theformat** » Sun Jan 07, 2007 11:32 pm

joeyc wrote:so true, but what is he going to tell his stereo?

i dunno...
but ive kissed my stereo 20x more than the last time ive kissed my ex rofl...
omg i love my alpine it kicks my duals ass in 600 ways more than one