Girlfriend wants to go with guy friend of hers to his senior prom

Mithrandir · Post by **Mithrandir** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:17 pm

my girlfriend wants to go with her one guy friend to his senior prom because he has no one else to go with and she told him she would before she met me. Shes giving me this whole story about how his life sucks and no girls like him.

Should i tell her to go for it or say no? I dont wanna be a sucker but i dont wanna be controlling either

MrSo0h0o · Post by **MrSo0h0o** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:25 pm

how long have you been with her? how long has she known that guy? are you worried something is gonna happen? if so, thats not a good sign. you should have trust in your relationship. trust is one the most important necessities when you are in a relationship.

Jonathan · Post by **Jonathan** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 7:29 pm

You could test her and let her go, if she doesn't do anything funny then maybe it'll prove her commitment to you. At least it'll show you her intentions. If she really had bad intentions with it, better to find out now than down the road with a ring on her finger.

I don't buy into the "girls don't like him", though. Half of the hottest women I've ever met go out with the ass ugliest losers I've ever seen in my life. Any guy can get a woman as long as he's confident. Not every woman, but he can get one. I was never into the sympathy crap. Did he talk to her and beg her to do this, or did she remember it off a whim and is pushing the idea on you?

I'd cautious at the least, step back and think about how serious ya'll are and how serious she thinks ya'll are. That's really how the decision should be made. Can't tell you any more than that. If you are really serious, I'd stamp a big fat hell no on it.

William from NOLA · Post by **William from NOLA** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:11 pm

If she does wind up going with him, make some friends that are going to that prom and have them keep an eye on both of them to make sure nothing else goes on.

JeremyC · Post by **JeremyC** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:29 pm

The main thing is trust your instincts. If you don't feel right about it then that says alot.

I do agree with Jonathan, I don't agree with the girls don't like him excuse. To me that seems a little fishy. But then again I don't know the whole situation.

So is this his prom or her prom? If its his, then to me it wouldn't be that big a deal. Hers, and then it would raise some suspecion (sp).

hmmmmmm I just had a brain storm. This could be her trying to figure out where she stands in the relationship. Girls are bad about that. Especially girls with lower self esteems. (especially the hot ones)

In the end it comes down to this. Listen to your gut and keep your eyes open. To many people let the drama and crazyness of a relationship cloud their judgment. If you keep calm, and remember she is A GUEST IN YOUR REALITY, not the other way around, you should find your way thru without a problem.

audiobass10 · Post by **audiobass10** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:32 pm

Dude..Here's what you say:

"Yea, that's cool. I was plannin on goin with some other girl to our prom anyways."

See how she likes that.

Jonathan · Post by **Jonathan** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:36 pm

Has she tried to play matchmaker with the guy? If that's the case, I'd feel a little better about it in your shoes. Usually any girl that has a single guy friend is always trying to play matchmaker.

JeremyC · Post by **JeremyC** » Tue Jan 17, 2006 8:40 pm

audiobass10 wrote:Dude..Here's what you say:

"Yea, that's cool. I was plannin on goin with some other girl to our prom anyways."

See how she likes that.

Only problem with that is most girls would see thru it. If it was true he wouldn't be worried about it, which I can garantee she has already noticed

I would go more like this.

Me = Yeah thats cool
Her = You sure
Me = Yeah you couldn't handle being next to a sexy stud like me in a tux all night. Plus all the other girls would be trying to get with me. I would have to bail you out of jail. It just wouldn't be good. I think I will go clubbing instead. There is a new club I have wanted to try out. And I would do exactly what I said. Go clubbing and have a good time.

Jonathan wrote:Has she tried to play matchmaker with the guy? If that's the case, I'd feel a little better about it in your shoes. Usually any girl that has a single guy friend is always trying to play matchmaker.

Yeah without knowing the full situation its pretty hard to get a good read

Mithrandir · Post by **Mithrandir** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 5:27 am

thanks for the great advice, yeah shes always trying to play match maker with him and find him a girlfriend. Oh yeah hes an X bf from a year ago but anyway i found out the "birthday party" she went to of his was just a party, and i swear to god she told me birthday party but maybe i got it confused i dunno. Its his senior prom not hers. We are supposedly very serious. She wants me to get her an engagement ring (yeah fat laugh if i have to keep dealing with other guy shit) is it just me or when you wanna be engaged and marry someone you dont go to other guys proms with them even as friends because you feel sorry for them and admire them. Oh yeah she told me she admires him and thats a big reason she wants to go because he can do all this stuff that she doesnt have the guts too. Im sorry its too fucking fishy to me (no offense to the fishy if hes on here, lol had to throw that in as a sorta joke). Im gonna tell her no i think.

edit: we have been together for 4 months yeah i know its not long.

stephensmia · Post by **stephensmia** » Wed Jan 18, 2006 5:41 am

Sounds to me like she still has feeling for him. I personally think its a bad idea to let such a thing go on. If she is serious about you than why is she still worried about the welfare of this other guy. Also I'm sure everyone her has a prom night story cause what the hell is prom night really for.