Ryan from Ohio wrote:Shes doesnt have to work.
She receives Child Support for four kids from 3 men. I pay her $450 a month+
I believe the runner up pays like $360 a month.
The other guy (ex husband who is back living there) pays $100 a month (he only makes minimum wage when he works).
But eh. Nothing I can do.
Eventhough my pays going down by 20% I dont think they will adjust my child support unless its 30%. In which case Im going to voluntarily take another 10% time cut. Whats another 4 hours a week... Especially if I can save $150-200 a month...
How in the hell did you get screwed (no pun intended) out of $450/month Ryan? Was your attorney screwing your Ex too? Wow! You know they can impute her at minimum wage, which is about $17k. This is what helped me when my Ex decided not to work in the thought that she would get more $$$. It ended up backfiring on her since the court said she was perfectly able to work, so they imputed her at $17k / yr.
I don't know what kind of money you were making at the time they hit you with $450/mo for one kid, but I get the impression that you are not making $80k/yr. I don't mean to dig into your private financials, but $450/mo is very very high.
Do yourself a favor and get a good attorney to deal with this for you. Even if you pay him a few grand it could easily save you hundreds per month. And make sure it is read into the record in a court so the child support agency cannot change it without another court order. This keeps the child support agency from arbitrarily changning your order at their beck and call. You will have a standing order that specifies a certain amount that cannot be adjusted without that court approving a change.
Also, what is your parenting arrangement? Do you have a shared parenting plan? If not, time to fight for that as well. You seem like a stand up guy and if you want to be a part of your kids' lives, you need the right to access their school records and other decision making rights that you may not have under a mother-held full custody arrangement.
Bwcad1 wrote:The things you should think about before getting your pee pee wet.
This! :happy055:
That is the last thing you think about at 2 AM after knocking back 12 beers and rounds of shots and you have a chick taking your pants off.
Been there, done that.
falkenbd wrote:they always blame the guys in these situations. it sounds like you are being a father, but she isn't being a mother. she had just as much to do with becoming pregnant as you did.... it takes 2 to tango, why do you have to be the only one paying?
why don't you take custody and someone like your mother babysit.
Taking custody of a child as a father is very difficult in this area. I have been told by a judge and a magistrate that unless the my Ex came into court willing to give up custody, there is not much she could do in their eyes that would justify taking the kids away.
Hell, a guy here at work has a kid with a woman that has been in and out of jail and he can't take the kid away while she is in jail for 3 months for drug charges. The courts are super wack around here. There is little chance that Ryan could take the kids from the mom, unless the mom agrees.
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